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Sexual communication is an important aspect of sex. Sometimes the use of words to describe certain wants or needs for sexual satisfaction can create certain fears, which can ultimately lead to a break down of communication. This break down or non-existence of sexual communication can often serve as a barrier for sexual intimacy which can lead to a decrease in libido.
Sex is a both a physical and emotional need that is healthy. Studies have correlated better sex lives with couples that effectively communicate. However, communication can be achieved in a variety of ways that does not always require just words.
Physical Communication
Communication does not always occur with words. It can be as simple as a certain look, a wink, a hand carefully placed on a shoulder or back, or wearing the perfume you know he loves. The saying; “actions speak louder than words,” is actually true in many cases. Often, couples know what the other is thinking without the need of words. Physical communication is an important part of the overall communication needed for healthy and great sex.
Communication: Sexual Directions
During sexual intercourse it is ok to give your partner directions. You can not be expected to read your partners mind, just as your partner can’t expect to read yours. You must make it obvious what you enjoy.
Give each other directions, this can be done by physically taking your partners hand and moving it (in a sexual manner) or can be achieved through verbal communication, “I like it when you…kiss me there….go slowly…yes right there….”
Often times, the things you want done in bed are not being done because your partner is clueless. If your relationship is based on love, then you can be guaranteed your partner wants to please you and communication is the first step to this achievement.
Communication: We Need to Talk
Good verbal communication is a necessity in all relationships. An open and honest conversation about sex can solve many sexual problems. However, this verbal communication about sex should be done in a tactful manner.
Focus on what your partner does well, and continue with what you would like to see change. Negative comments and terminology should be avoided, and constructive criticism should be utilized in its stead. It is usually safe to list at least three things you enjoy for every one thing that you do not.
Communication and Intimacy
Often, honest and open communication is cause for enhancements in overall sexual and emotional intimacy. Every couple is unique and has different methods for communicating. Some couples never talk about sex, while others show less inhibition.
However, there should exist a method between couples within the relationship to express feelings about sexual likes and dislikes in such a manner that provides important feedback without creating feelings of inadequacy.
Finding this healthy sexual communication in your relationship can lead to the development of higher sexual intimacy. There will be issues that may be harder to resolve than others, but communication is the first step to solving any problem.
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/female-sexual-dysfunction/DS00701/DSECTION=1
http://www.bbc.co.uk/health/conditions/mental_health/support_sexual.shtml
Written by Lillian Taylor for MicroNutra Health™